When two people in love are aligned to the same goals… what can stand in their way?
This week on the Power Couple Show, we tackle what it looks like when someone gets on board with their partner’s goals, whether they understand and agree with them or not. We dive into our own journey of aligning goals, how Larry slowly got on board with my big ideas, and we urge you to start honest, raw discussions within your relationship about your goals as a couple.
Today’s goals: Get real specific about what you want for your future, both as an individual and for your relationship. Then, start that discussion with your partner and see how you can best align your goals to reach success in record time.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT:
- Not being afraid to dream big and set larger-than-life goals
- Keeping an open conversation about goals and what each partner can contribute
- How to handle when one partner doesn’t fully understand the other’s desires for their future
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Episode 2 Transcript: Aligning Goals With Your Partner
Alyssa
Everybody, welcome back to the show. This is the Power Couple Show and we’re so happy that you’re here with us. We’re here with Larry Morton. We’ve been together six years, we have been married for three and a half. And we’re just building this empire of ours and we thought that it would be fun to bring you guys along the journey of our relationship and how we’re able to keep it alive while doing all of the things that we’re doing, like building businesses and raising kids. And so this week, we’re gonna be talking about aligning goals and how important it is for you and your partner to be on the same page, because at the end of the day, if you guys aren’t supporting each other in the goals, it’s never going to come to fruition or at least going to take you twice as long.
Larry
It is definitely super important to be on the same page as your spouse. Because working towards the same goal we get there quicker.
Alyssa
A lot quicker, you’re able to divide and conquer, like his skill sets and my skill sets aren’t the same. So we’re able to delegate or you know, whatnot. I want to actually talk about some of our goals that we’re working toward because maybe they’ll relate to it. I know for us, we use the Chris and Laurie Harder “power nine,” like whatever we’re getting into a slump, to remind us exactly where we’re going and how I believe we’re gonna get there. So some of our goals are we want to make $2 million. Within the next two years or more.
Larry
We want to have all of our businesses run themselves. Yes, that’s huge. We have our hands in a lot of pots.
Alyssa
For us, we want to have our dream home our forever home within the next five years, ideally, be able to work a max of like 12 of hours a week and really get to spend time with our family.
Larry
Yeah, that’s a big one for me.
Alyssa
So with those goals in mind, we refer back to them pretty much daily to remind us of why we’re hustling so hard and whatever grinding so that we are always reminded and motivated and energized because it can become really easy for us to just feel exhausted.
Larry
Yeah, I learned the hard way that you need to get on board with your spouse’s goals, especially when they’re greater than your own. I was very much in a working mindset where I just was getting up to go to work every day. And that was gonna be my life and she had much, much, much bigger goals.
Alyssa
And they get bigger by the day.
Larry
It’s always something new.
Alyssa
It’s like a snowball like just as an avalanche like, that’s crazy. Like how quickly they have grown. Like it started with “I’m gonna start my own business” and now it’s “we’re gonna have multimillion dollars in two years.” Which no idea how we’re getting there, but it’ll happen.
Larry
But if you were to ask me three years ago, if we will be doing this, I would have said there’s no way, that’s not in our handbook. But here we are. Here we are.
Alyssa
So something else we should talk about, like as it relates to like aligning goals and whatnot, is like when you’re not feeling like you’re in alignment with our goals. What kind of… how can we go about the conversation to make sure either we come to a resolution and you’re on board or do you just like pee on that fire?
Larry
I think that it doesn’t matter what your spouse’s goal is, or what their plan is. See it out.
Alyssa
Don’t knock it till you try it.
Larry
You don’t know until you know, especially with stuff that you have, like, I have no clue about anything that we’re doing. I am totally following her lead. And so far so good. It’s been weird because it’s not the lifestyle that I thought that we were gonna have and that I had envisioned, but it’s better to be working towards something, to be pointed in a direction that’s not just neutral. We’re pointed up and that’s where we’re headed.
Alyssa
Yeah, I think that’s big. And just like, if it brings them joy, why would you want to like put out that joy?
Larry
Yeah, why would you squash it before you get to see the results? Yeah.
Alyssa
Like, you know, your spouse more than anyone like you should be able to bet on them and know that it’s gonna come true.
Larry
And it doesn’t necessarily have to be a financial goal or anything like that. If it’s something that makes them happy as a hobby, and…
Alyssa
Yeah like fitness, nutrition or anything, whatever it is.
Larry
If it’s something that brings your spouse happiness, just get on board. It doesn’t hurt.
Alyssa
Don’t sabotage it either. I think that’s big too. Like, especially for like the nutrition and like, fitness aspect. Like last year after I had my first baby. I had really committed to losing the weight and getting fit, and you weren’t necessarily on board but at least for you to get fit. But you made the dinners you were everything that I needed you to be supported, I could meet my goals.
Larry
Yeah I wasn’t necessarily gung ho about my own health and fitness just because it wasn’t a priority for me. And I’m still working on that. But I knew it was huge for her. So I was making chicken and rice about 1000 different ways so that she had what she needed. Meal prepping, making sure that she had time to go to the gym, whatever. Just because I knew that that’s what she wanted. And I want it to be that support and you’ve met your goals.
Alyssa
Yeah, I think that’s really big and that you guys can apply that to anything that you’re doing in your relationship in your life, even if you don’t necessarily want that future for you, just to not get in their way and to try to help them however you can to help them reach their goals.
Larry
Yes, yes. It’s one thing to be a bystander and letting them do what they’re doing doesn’t necessarily hurt, but it doesn’t help but you can definitely help and do what you can to help them achieve their goals. And it’s even better if you want to be a part and more than just a helping hand. Yeah, if you want to go to the gym with them and deal with them and build businesses with them. That’s really where it’s at. Because it’s personal growth and if you can grow together as a couple it takes your relationship to the next level.
Alyssa
Yeah, I mean, like think back to like when I was making my transformation and like self-development and mental like everything and you were a little bit slow to that, that party. But once you made that shift and started listening to the podcast with me and started reading the ebooks and like the audiobooks and all of those things, like we had a new level to connect on. Yes, like it was more than just like our house and our kids and it was like, “Oh, we’re doing this together.” And we had something more to like talk about. We had something else in common like it brought us closer together as a relationship.
Larry
Yeah, big time. You learned from her telling me like listening to this podcast today. And it was X, Y and Z I was looking at because I didn’t necessarily care because I didn’t know what it was about. Like I didn’t…
Alyssa
You didn’t get it. I didn’t get it like the one you guys get it. You’re listening here but
Larry
Yeah, the whole podcasting never really resonated with me until it did.
Alyssa
And the one day he came home he was like listening to Chris Harder today I was like frickin finally! Like What took you so long? And then he told me he listened to it all day. It made the day go by quicker and he was in a better mood. Just everything that comes from it.
Larry
Sort of listening to audiobooks Mike McCallawits and Tony Robbins, everybody, everyone that everyone listens to and you know, sucks knowledge out of. That’s kind of where I was too. And it’s huge. And I was late to the game. She was months ahead of me. And I’m like, look what I listened to today, and she’s like, Yeah, I did two months ago.
Alyssa
It’s like how do you like it? Let’s talk about it. Yeah.
Larry
And it really helps to one-up our mindsets and our relationship overall, because now we have something else to talk about, because that’s something that happened early on, and it’s tough to talk about because you’re with someone every single day for your life. So you get to get new information, more talk to one another.
Alyssa
Yeah, it’s a whole new connection. I think that’s a good place to leave it for today. At the end of the day, just get on board with your spouse’s goals, at least like don’t sabotage them, listen to them, be excited for them and support them however you can. And if you can, join the journey because it’s gonna go a lot quicker and you’ll be a lot happier together. Yeah, so if you guys are struggling in your relationship, or you want to just like bounce some ideas off of us. We do double dating! You can go on our website at the PowerCoupleShow.net and you can inquire on our website. If you have a specific question you want to ask us for the show. We’ll answer it live. If you don’t mind sharing with your friends, leave us a review. Tag us on Instagram. It’s @lyss.morton, and his is @mortomotoshow.
Larry
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Alyssa
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